Life in this world is a journey punctuated by darknesses and happiness. It is no utopia, it is no bed of roses. Rather, one of the laws governing our environment is that we need the presence of thorns to appreciate the flowers. Life does not come easy. Maybe, this is why the very birth of a human being only becomes possible through the happiness and pain of another: pregnancy is indeed riddled with difficulties, entailing the shaping of the body of a human being within another which is also being re-sculptured.
During pregnancy, a woman’s body goes through extreme changes to accommodate for the new life growing from a two-celled organism to a fully formed baby inside of her. For months, her own body undergoes dynamic processes that will mark her for life. One of these happenings involves her bone structure.
The pelvis is one of the main set of bones that plays a major role during pregnancy. Four bones make it up, linked by connective tissues known as ligaments. The pelvis is to the baby what the ribs are to the heart: it cages and protects the foetus as it grows. A female pelvis is much wider than a male’s for this very reason. During later pregnancy, a hormone called relaxin is released to soften the ligaments so that the pelvis becomes more elastic. This gradual process happening as the baby is growing faster will eventually help the pelvic bones to stretch and open to allow for the baby to be born. This might be the cause of back, joint and pelvic pain for pregnant women. The relaxin that causes the loosening of ligaments is also responsible for the increase in shoe size of some pregnant women.
While the mother’s body is preparing to welcome out of it the baby, the latter’s skeleton is also being moulded; hence why it needs plenty of calcium. If, however, the mother does not consume enough calcium, the baby will drain the mother’s own bones, sucking in her calcium like a leech drawing in blood. Some women might also develop osteoporosis during pregnancy, but this is rare. On the other hand, pregnancy also protects the woman’s calcium reserves. For instance, pregnant women absorb calcium from food better than non-pregnant ones. Also, the excess of the hormone oestrogen released during pregnancy also protects the mother’s bones. Some studies even say that a woman who has given birth several times has less risk of having fractures.
That is not all. While pregnancy itself is an intense experience in terms of these extreme body changes, the peak moment of pain still lies ahead: childbirth. As the foetus is pushed through the birth canal, the pelvic opening dilates, affecting the vagina, bladder, and urethra. Another bone comes into play: the tailbone (also known as coccyx). Unlike men’s, women’s tailbone is not upright. Rather, it flattens out allowing for more space. When the baby comes through, the tailbone flattens completely to make space for the little human to see the light of the day.
The coming of life into this world only happens through the suffering of another: a bone-moving experience. So, isn’t it time yet for you to humble yourself to your mother, showering her with kindness and love?