Losers who cheat in relationships are more likely to do so yet again, even to the very one with whom they cheated in the first place. According to a new study, a person preying on others’ partners, or worse, having the latter cheat to start a relationship, is only making matters worse for himself: the person having cheated once will more likely deceive the new partner as well.
A team of researchers including a social psychologist observed certain patterns in three different studies about “mate poaching”, a term used to describe stealing a mate from another person.
The abstract reports “…we observed reliable evidence that individuals who were poached by their current romantic partners were less committed, less satisfied, and less invested in their relationships. They also paid more attention to romantic alternatives, perceived their alternatives to be of higher quality and engaged in higher rates of infidelity compared to non-poached participants.”
The person who allows himself to be “poached” by another, thereby cheating on his ex-partner, will always tend to find the grass greener elsewhere. The probability that he repeats his treacherous acts again is high enough so that poachers think twice before stealing other people’s mates.
It is a logical process: if a person is ready to shred his self-respect and cheat on a partner in the past, why would he not be willing to do it again? This has been spelled out in past studies like one carried out by researchers from the University of Denver who concluded that cheaters were 3.5 times more likely to “do it again” by cheating with someone else, at the expense of the new partner.
But, then, do we really need studies with scientific proof to learn this basic life lesson? Whenever any of us does something essentially wrong, the consequences come right after: every action has a reaction, and, you do reap what you sow. If the poacher actually participates in the transgression and helps the poached to be dishonest, why would he think that the same might not happen to him? Does he have a cheating-proof shield? No, but rather, he is more likely to reap really, really bad fruits from his really, really bad seeds.